Dear Daddy !!

Right now, if anyone had asked me to name a person whom I missed the most. I would say that I miss my dad without even any second thoughts.

I just miss everything about him.

I miss the positive vibes he spreads when he is around me. He has always been my support system. Whenever I feel so down or hope that things should go well, he always wishes me the best. One such incident was back in school when I had my Chemistry lab practical board examination, I was randomly ranting to him that I should get one of the easily identifiable salts. Out of blue, he told me “Bubble kutty, you will get Copper Sulphate! Don’t worry”. That is the easiest salt as one can just identify it by its beautiful color. To my surprise, boom ! I got ‘Copper Sulphate’ on that very day. I don’t know why exactly I have that memory though. May be, its because of my dad. I totally know that it was a random thing. But what matters to me is the things that he says to me to make me comfortable. But do not think that he just says random stuff to make me at ease. He is the most smart, practical and a sensible person I have ever seen.

This memory about ‘Copper Sulphate’ is very nostalgic. It is a good feeling to recollect such good times. Isn’t it? I’m going to recollect all the good memories with him today.

I miss the Pizza dates with him. Those days were bliss. ‘Dominos’ were our all-time destination. I still wonder if he likes Pizza though. I’m pretty sure that he took to that place just because I enjoy it. I not only miss the pizza dates, but also the Starbucks dates,Shawarma nights and the paneer soda cravings. My mom every time scold us for drinking this drink, ‘paneer soda’ which dad and I were super obsessed about. So, we ended up finishing the drink right outside the shop and never gave a sign of it when we returned to home.

I miss the amazing telepathy we share. Sometimes, I will be having some specific food craving. So, I call him and ask him to buy it while he comes home after his office. But there were days where I was super lazy or would have slipped off to call him. But !! he comes with the exact same ‘Chicken’ I had wished for but missed to ask him. I will all be super shocked and say “Daddy nan nenachen…unga kita solanum nu!! Epdi theryum ?” He just says “Nee.. ninaichiya.. enaku ketuchu”. Maybe he very well knows about my cravings pattern. He is just the BEST!

I miss the hugs. Those were the warmest hugs I have ever received. I feel that his shoulders were the safest place to lie down. Back when I was in Bangalore for a year before moving to Japan, almost every alternate week, I visited my home in Chennai. The Kaveri Express reaches the Perambur station early in the morning. I usually take the OLA from there to reach my home. The first thing I do is to snug myself in my dad’s shoulder and have a nice Saturday morning nap. I even miss listening to the rhythm of his heartbeat. The most soothing tune ever.

I miss his car reversing sound I hear every evening back in home. That is the signal that my dad is home. And that’s the signal for some beautiful night outs. Every time before he goes for some grocery shopping he asks me if I also wanted to go along with him. We used to team up and roam around in the late evenings. My mom teases him saying that he cannot go alone and needs me always.

I miss all the efforts he takes to surprise me. Right from buying my favorite chocolate box and stuffing it under my pillow till birthday cakes and gifts. Not only surprises but also the little things he does to make sure that I’m fine. During my stay in Bangalore, the Sunday nights were the stressful nights as I need to return to my work place in Bangalore. It used to be so difficult to leave home after being pampered for two days. I was so much pampered that he even arranged my pillows and blankets in the train before dropping me. Below are some of the pictures I clicked when he was busy arranging my bed in train.

I miss him being over protective too. He stands by my side and just questions anyone who even try to harm me and I cannot forget his stares towards the random guys who barely tries to look at me. Lol. Despite being over protective, he always leaves me independent and more than that trusts me a lot.

I miss the mischievous kid in him. One such mischief was when he applied his shaving gel on my cheeks or cracking typical ‘dad jokes’. He is one charming person!!

I miss all the long conversations that I had with him back in home. He spoke to me a lot about the things that will be useful for life. He always told me not to fear about anything. He taught me how to handle bad situations and face it too. Those were some nice conversations. I wonder how we were super comfortable talking about any topic. Be it even menstruation cycle or rape. We spoke about it. No wonder why I miss him because he is just awesome.

Since I spoke a lot about my dad. Here is a recent memory of him without him being in the scene. Few days back I was just listening to this tamil song “Deivangal elam thotre pogum thandhai anbin munne….” I was just left with tears the moment I heard this song. So true ! No one can ever replace my dad in my life. I would say that my standard of how a man should be is very high because how my dad is. I’m just super proud of my dad. I’m even proud that I do not have an initial for my name. It is “Mithra Ravichandran” in my birth certificate as well. I have decided that even after I get married, I will never change my second name.

Okay, I need to end this post somewhere because words cannot completely express my love for my dad. Let me end here with a note to my dad.

“Dear Daddy

I just miss you so much. I’m the luckiest person to have you in my life. I’m what today because of you. Thank you for always being there for me. We are a perfect ‘Dad-daughter duo’ !!

We were supposed to spend this day together in Japan. But we were not able to make it due to this pandemic. But it’s okay, I’m grateful that I could write this since I missed you. I take this too positively. Looking forward to see you soon. Happy 62nd Birthday Daddy!! my handsome hero”. This is my birthday gift to you 🙂

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